Androgyny & artificiality
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Im not sure where my strong conversion to androgyny comes from. When I was first out it was the nelly boys who took me into their bed. It might have been adaptation. But the earliest beautiful young men I can remember were all in a fey way. And my childhood upbringing biased me against strong manliness which may have pushed me in the other direction.
Androgynous women are lovely. One of my aesthetic-erotic barriers in appreciating the surface of many women is that their hips seem too wide.
Actually I dont see long hair on a guy as feminine. I just plain love long hair. It registers even when I see a butch guy.
Yes, I value artificiality for its own pleasurable sake.
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I’m a men’s long-hair fan, too, because it is predominantly masculine to me. My favorite is anything single-length (no bangs or mullets!), well cared for but simple.
It took me until my late 30s to let my own grow. Living with it (currently it reaches to 4 inches above my waist) has led me to appreciate its softness and flow. I like the idea that it has its own personality from day to day that doesn’t include the razor-sharp precision of many current men’s styles.
Posted by: Steve | November 25, 2003 3:12 AM
I haven’t had long hair myself in years. My hair is extremely curly and it takes constant care just to get it near the shoulder.
I envy you, hair that long is a rare gift and always a treat to see.
Posted by: Richard | November 25, 2003 7:07 AM
Letting it grow ended up feeling parallel to coming out — just letting something be that was meant to be.
I used to wonder why more guys didn’t do it before I took the plunge (in my mid 30s). Having it taught me how many guys would love to do the same but can’t for whatever reason.
Posted by: Steve | November 26, 2003 10:14 AM
Some of us just don’t have the right genetics even with detanglers and conditioners.
Caught your comment on the Civil Marriage weblog.
Posted by: RIchard | November 26, 2003 4:28 PM
Hey man! This site rocks! I have a total thing for femme bois and butch girls, being here makes me feel less like a total freak, thanks!
Posted by: Anonymous | December 13, 2003 9:21 PM
There’s nothing freakish about anything that doesn’t harm you or your partner in a life-threatening, life-damaging way. Some of us are just less commonplace.
Posted by: Richard | December 14, 2003 12:58 PM