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In my blundering way I suspect I may have come across as harsh in an exchange with one of the very few people in the world I really value (Collect the set now. Bonus characters available only with Happy Meals.)
The theme was having one partner / spouse stay at home and make the home more comfortable and, well, homey.
I was speaking against doing that. My main fear was making the person who stays at home less able. That certain social skills and even the capacity to tolerate working for others can easily atrophy.
Recalling this exchange I remembered when Charles and I first took possession of this house.
Charles earned about $700 a month for six hours work. Originally we had planned for him to stay home otherwise. He had all sorts of home prefification projects in mind. And I was all for that. Coming home to a pretty boy who had been doing graceful and appealing things seemed like the best imaginable conclusion to work I could imagine.
And - at the time - I didn’t want him to feel any stress at all.
Really I’m sure given the right guy a male housewife would be awful nice.