On Being Pleasing
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Pleasing the other. Being pleased by the other.
Funny how people sometimes try to lock either act in a role. Even in gender.
My biggest conflict with how many transvestites see their selves is they equate femininity with being submissive. That it is only by submitting a feminine person can please. This seems an impoverished - and really very male - image of the feminine.
When does the top - the masculine person in this one instance - feel least adequate? When he cannot please the bottom, the femme partner.
There is strength and power in giving pleasure. Being pleasing isn’t a mark of subjugation.
Except sometimes. For fun.