Transgendered & dominance
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I'm going to force this to be a short note. It could be elaborated into a book or two.
Tell me, my transgendered friends, why do you love those bad boys so much? Ignoring the subtleties of gender color often unseen by the complacent majority - hetero and gay alike - I see a desire, perhaps craving for masculine recklessness, toughness, selfishness in the ambiguously gendered people I've known and read online.
I'm a victim of my own special form of Puritanism. I like to think of the differently, obscurely gendered as transcending gender. And my own hypocrisy: while I don't tend to consciously think of myself as masculine I've never not enjoyed my perceived butchess when admiration was offered.
Nonetheless I feel that I have seen assertive often-cruel maleness as the most craved object of imagination's desire. And (restricting myself to one role for now) it isn't as if the sight of someone slim and blonde in a collar hasn't aroused me.
So I invite my differently gendered friends to tell me that: I'm wrong, why I'm right, why I'm right but wrong. This isn't intended as condemnation, just a wander along the bypaths of gender qualities and power relationships.