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I’m a romantic guy. Sometimes looking back I’ve wondered if I haven’t been too romantic a man.
Regretting the past is vain of purpose or value.
Every now and then I run across - mostly on the web, but once in real life - attractive young gay men who are virgins.
They are waiting for Mr. Right. Or at least Mr. Good Enough to be a boyfriend and not just a one-night stand.
If you aren’t cut out to have a happily sluttish young manhood that isn’t a failing. Or is it?
I enjoyed mine. Though I went the romantic route within a few years. Leading to much frustration. Even unto recent times.
I’ve known men who have an inexhaustible sexual appetite. Depending on their inclination they are in or someone is in their bodies as often as possible.
Almost every single one of them has wished they had a lover to whom they’d be true. Or who would at least be the most important person in their lives even if they still saw others.
My joyfully promiscuous friends never thought about shutting down their erotic life to wait for Mr. Right. Much less living as gay virgins.
If you are hypercharged with romantic ideals my advice to you would be to go fuck or get fucked (or sucked, the act doesn’t matter) anyway. At least once, damnit.
Famously youth is wasted on the young. Not really. Only on a few folks in love with their naiveté.
If you are young:
You can have partners you’ll never be able to have when you are older. (While true, it can be overinflated. There are boys who like older men. There are plenty of people who would rather sleep with someone likeable, smart, communicative than a Brad Pitt clone. Trust me).
There’s a special zest when you are young. Another half-truth. When people express the wish they could have the strong emotions they had as a youth I tend to shake my head. Why?
If you are at all evolved you don’t need to go back to that period of confusion.
If you have a talent for living the decades don’t leave each new experience stale.
Maybe you can’t get quite as giddy. Well, have a drink or joint.
Anyway, if you are a young gay man who wants both love and sex my advice to you: is at least have some of the sex. Don’t put yourself in the position of regretting having tossed away your young years. That is one of the few things that can really poison your later life.
Love that lasts isn’t easy to find. Even the finest folks may separate after years past. Don’t invest too much of your life in idealist images of what you want. Sometimes in settling for what you can have you get what you really need.
Follow-up: Return of the Gay Virgins