Describing Female Beauty
The sometimes legalistic lore of summing up female appearance.
Hot Bottom Boys
Sometimes the top is the sex slave of the boy who bends over.
Erotic Orientation Labels
Nouns used to describe sexuality require qualification, nuance and details to be used properly.
Anorgasmic
The annoyance and displeasure of not being able to achieve an orgasm.
Topspace
What does a gay male top want from a queer femme bottom?
Enslaving You
My heart is captivated by images of controlling a submissive gay male.
Romantic Irony
Is suicide better than wanting what, who you cannot have?
Romantic Pairing
Could we find a saner, wiser way for choosing lovers as life-partners?
Early Erotics
The infantile endocrine system may be a forgotten source of the formation of our mature sexuality.
Sex is 90% Mental
Sexual desire becomes annoyingly distracting mostly because it is a sign of romantic longing.
Masculine Vanities
On discerning that I've had a stronger sense of manhood than I long suspected.
Gender Qualities
Manhood and femaleness aren't really about power but means and manners of self-expression.
Dreams of Domination
Power exchange: control, surrender, mastery, submission can be tender, sweet and loving.
Long Distance
Keeping my mind and heart open to exploring romantic love with someone even if they don't live near me.
Friendship Gone Mad
Demon-haunted by visions of romantic love.
Adolescent Angst
Age tempers us to the pangs of romantic longing and enables us to better if unhappily cope with our lust for love.
Libido, Affection and a Bit of Confusion
Theoretically I can love without regard to gender genetics and performance. But my longing keeps forcing me to focus on some particular example.
Resolution
To never again have a weakness for weakness be made helpless by helplessness.
Atypical Beauty
Not everyone subscribes to the conventional canons of physical attractiveness.
Pansexual Paradox
Imagine finding everyone sexually and romantically desirable and being unable to want anyone.
Aloneness
Here in Durham, NC I don't see myself finding romantic companionship with a transgender person or gay male femme guy or anyone at all.
Erotic Nostalgia
Remembering the erotic beauty of the boys and girls of the late 1960s and early 1970s.
The Bi in Bisexual
Sexual labels are impoverished and valueless without including the individuality and idiosyncrasy of the person using the label to designate their erotic orientation.
Pansexual : Affectional & Sexual Orientation
The label becomes more popular. I'm not sure that makes me happy. But I'm a finicky chap aren't I?
Noctural Commissions
Looking at a wholesale catalog of yaoi manga prompts dreams of Japanese bottom boys.
Are You Fixated on a Body Part?
Do you make a fetish of the size and shape of a man or woman's butt, chest and sleep only with someone who matches your ideal?
The Pornography of the Heart
Are romantic musical comedies with happy endings sign of emotional unhealth, a flight from the reality of relationships and heartbreak?
This is My Life?
Boredom and pain in a long distance relationship.
Pansexual Epiphany
Feeling connected to all gender identities, every sexual permutation, erotic variation: the joy of pansexuality.
Again: I Try Porn
Imagine a gay man who doesn't enjoy pornographic movies. Well, weirdly enough I'm one of them. Clearly a case of being too romantic.
Erotic Ideal?
Imagine your perfect male / female / transgendered dominant / submissive romantic / sexual partner / lover / spouse and share that image with me.
Pansexuality : A Questionnaire
A researcher sent me a quiz askine me to explain what being pansexual means to me as a man.
There Was a Place Down Below ...
Everything you need for your complete entertainment and instruction: a once in a life time production.
Pretty Shoes
Gentle, romantic retifism: her simple black shoes remind me of schoolgirl.
Mostly Tactile
My mtf transsexual girlfriend is back in my life, he hold and touch one another, watch movies and hang out.
I'm a Happy Pillow
My lover is back and snuggling up against me once again.
Letter to a Dead Ex-lover
Nostalgia and longing for a gay boy that I once loved who destroyed himself with drug abuse.
Gauging Disappointment
Learning at which point our unhappiness proves the failure of our relationship and that it is time to leave our lover.
When Communication Isn't Enough
Talking to each other won't save a romance when change is needed and doesn't come.
Fear of Younger Lovers
My last two lovers have been much younger but my fears of superficiality and foolishness proved unfounded.
My Love
The dark side of my homoerotic desires.
Phallocentric Cravings
I love a sweet transsexual and suddenly my desires switch to male anatomy.
Bisexuality : Can You Acquire It?
What is the latent same-sex erotic potential of most men and women. Can sexual and affection preference be learned and expanded?
Return of the Long Distance Relationship Blues
My lover is a citizen of another country. American immigration law is unfair. My heart breaks.
What If You Lose Your Lover?
Facing life without my beloved transgendered partner and hoping I'm strong enough to be happy alone.
Lust of the Heart
The romantic-erotic yearning for your lover, partner, mate.
My Foot Fetish
The pleasure of kissing, licking, massaging her feet and toes.
How Do You Become Pansexual?
Sexual and affectional orientation: learned, socialized, inherent, can it grow or are people trapped by their sexuality?
Most Fun Things to Do With Another Person's Body
Foreplay, afterplay: the joys of touching, kissing and nibbling your lover's body.
Heterosexual Male Bottoms
Straight and bisexual men who enjoy strap-on sex with women, their wives and girlfriends. Does it make them homophobic?
Return of the Gay Virgins
The emotional consequences of a gay man preserving his virginity from either fear or idealism.
Men / Women : Addendum
A pansexual queer meditations on heterosexual relationships between males and females.
On the Differences Between Men & Women
Perhaps not all heterosexual norms are as bad as I used to think. A quick note in queer gender studies.
On Not Being a Good Male Bottom
I like being a gay male top. Though I wish I could get more pleasure from my vagus nerve.
What My Pansexuality Means To Me
My pansexual, impartial appreciation of all male, female, transvestite, transsexual human forms makes me happy and defeats life’s regrets and defeats.
The Long Distance Relationship Blues
My lover is British and we don't want to offend the INS by seeming to abuse the Visa Waiver Program.
Gay Virgins ...
Waiting for the ideal romantic partner, Mr. Right, may be the worst thing a young gay man can do.
The Empowerment of Lust
Lack of libido can be worse than unsatisfied sexual needs. My beloved partner is away and I'm lonely.
Cialis: Yeah, I Use It
Whether my erectile dysfunction is physical impotence or a emotional self-doubt I don't know.
Long Distance Relationships
If your beloved lives in another country, coping can be difficult. But it is better to have a distant lover than no one to love.
A Man With Two Penises ...
How would you handle being doubled cocked? Would it be better, inconvenient, troublesome or a wonderful thrill?
Ask the Pansexual Sodomite
Need advice? What can I tell you about pansexuality, being gay, loving transgendered and femme gay guys. This is your chance to gain an insight into my mind.
Cuddle Parties?
Chaste intimacy with a stranger: it seems repulsive to me. For weaklings.
On Separation
My lover must depart for the land of her birth, leaving me alone.
Sudden surge of erotic dominance
Sometimes I'd like to own and control another as a slave.
Boys wth naked ankles
Androgynous bodies and clothing.
Need. Love. Frustration.
My transsexual lover returns, will I be able to be man enough for her?
Love is . . . ?
Beginnings of a provisional attempt to define romantic love.
Pansexual sodomy in the news
Pansexual Sodomite weblog of aytpical sexuality referenced in a newspaper.
Alex(andra)
Photograph of my male girlfriend, transsexual lover - you choose the damn label.
Male girlfriend?
A quick note about my knew girly boy, femme guy, transgendered lover.
Sexual failure?
If my lover caused my sexuality to die can I ever forgive?
Romantic love and erotic responsibility
Romantic love will never survive without sexual satisfaction and respect.
Webcam romance & the fool in the mirror
Falling in love with a transsexual on a web cam and laughing at how funny and foolish my sexuality can be.
Needy people
Loving needy people is a dangerous, deadly form of romance.
On being needed ...
On being fulfilled as man by being needed buy a boyfriend, a lover.
Queer sexuality: finding out, coming out
For National Coming Out Day I write of my own discovery that I'm gay and coming out to loved ones.
Odd erotic daze
Queer erotic daze somehow involving boots, fetish wear, sterotypical clothing.
Two Russ Meyer women and Diana Rigg
Erotic fantasies about Tura Satana and Kitten Natividad but not Diana Rigg.
The Handsome Young Man on the Train
A story about watching a beautiful young man sitting across on a train ride home to a lover.
Bisexuality as a range
Bisexuality is more common, subtle and confusing than the average monosexual gay or straight person thinks.
Scarves, vests, boots, ponytails
Clothing fetishes, erotic associations with certain garments particularly with gay men and transvestites.
Gay men who want to look more masculine
I like feminine gay guys. Pity so many gay men are worried about looking manly, masculine, butch.
Gay men who hate heterosexuals & women
Some gay men hate all heterosexual people. Some hate straight women even more. Why?
What about a top makes a bottom happy?
I enjoy being a gay male top, makes dating guys easier. But I wish I could get more pleasure from being on the bottom. Why can't I?
A bottom's weak spot
Caressing a gay male bottom's sacral hiatus will make him squirm with pleasure. True or not?
Greek / French : active / passive?
On being active or passive, top or bottom in my sexual relationships with other gay men.
Synthroid & sex
My thyroid wasn't producing enough thyroid hormone and my libido died. Taking synthroid, Levothyroxine, brought my sexuality and sex drive back to life.
Spankings: would you like to give or get a spanking?
Gay men who enjoy receiving or inflicting a spanking on another man. Normal, sick, interesting, disturbing – what do you think?
Pee on me
Why do vanilla gay men enjoy golden showers as a form of sex play?
Nobody Loves You When You're Old and Gay
Growing older as a gay man, gay men and ageism, ageist behavior among queer males.
Feminization: is it sexist?
Thoughts about men who want to be sissified by women.
Pose, posture: the composition of sexual beauty
Best looking queer guy in Durham NC inspires thoughts about how the angle of view, body language, poses, postures affect someone's sex appeal.
Gay & middle age crazy?
Emotional and sexual affects on gay men as they enter middle age. Do they become perhaps a little foolish, crazy?
Taxonomy of the twink
Twink: a word of gay slang that may be defined as an attractive, boyish man or more complicatedly according to personal prefrences and biases.
Pansexual: short & simple
What it is to be a pansexual man: quick and easy definition for people with short attention spans.
Online crushes, virtual romance
Danger of gay men falling love from profiles, online chatting, personal ads, instant message charmers, seductive webloggers and Live Journal
One gay man's romantic failures
Mistakes in love, errors in romance, loving wrongly, silly passion, bad lovers: even gay men can do all the wrong things when they are too romantic for their own good.
Unrealized sexuality: pansexuality
Being a pansexual man every kind of person, every type of body, every fluke of biology is worthy of love and lust.
Unrealized sexuality: butch gay men
I can appreciate the erotic charisma of masculine gay men but have always preferred feminine gay males.
Unrealized sexuality: heterosexuality
I prefer gay men but probably could've lived as a heterosexual man with women, such is being pansexual.
Gay man & straight woman watch male strippers
Heterosexual woman and queer guy review dancers at a male strip club.
Men: hairy or smooth?
Do you find men with smooth or hairy chests more attractive? Do you shave your chest?
Is being short unsexy?
Do gay men find short guys less sexually attractive? Is being tall part of desirable in a man, being masculine
What if your lover is better looking than you are?
Why gay couples stay together. It is often more than beauty. Queer male sexual attraction is a complex idea.
What a queer sense of sexual identity
I'm so happy to be a queer guy and not a heterosexual man
Professional beauty & the boy next door
People may idiolize physical perfection but are happy finding an ordinary person to love
Sexuality can be beastly
Some variations in sexuality are troublesome, even disgusting and often unexpected.
Unrealized sexuality: gay transvestites
If I had a gay boyfriend who crossdresser, a queer transvestite what would I want him to be like?
Value of foreskin
Men who are upset by foreskin, gay males who either desire or disdain the uncicumcised penis
Unrealized sexuality: hermaphrodites
Confessing and exploring my erotic wish to have had an experience with a hermaphrodite, ladyboy, use whatever term captures the double genderedness for you.
Frotting, frottage
Gay male frotting cult, queer sexuality may or may not involve frottage
Q: Is there hope for a "bland, nice guy?"
Asking Google for dating and romance advice and help
Versatile?
Are gay men mostly versatiles or are they divived between butch tops and bottoms?
Top, bottom equals dominant, submissive?
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