Nancyboys, Soft Boys, Sissyphobia
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Another ancient page, my first simply description of beauty I find in what I called 'soft boys.' My Live Journal has seen thousands of words about nelly gay guys, probably wearying a few longtime readers ("Richard's on that again"). This page earned a surprisingly large number of indignant IMs from gay men. How they asked or demanded could I like flaming fairies? (Now there's a book about it: Sissyphobia.) But even more fey and androgynous gay guys wrote with thankfully that a gay man had expressed his delight in their pixie-dust trailing ways. I shouldn't forget the creepy contigent who wanted to know what turned me on about guys in girls' panties (a taste I don't share). And the butch-acting masochists who wanted me to feminize them.
One day I hope I'll finally write the evolution of this facet of my sexuality and a more fitting tribute to the gay androgyne.
Some people sure do get upset when they read these pages. There's nothing less masculine than worrying about your masculinity. If that I've spent time with swishy guys bothers you go away. I'm not asking you to hold your wrist limp. I'm telling you about my past.
Call them nelly queens, nancyboys, janegirls or anything but fags, soft males fill me with a beautiful elation. Although they may be bossy or bitchy their tender surface gives me an illusion of protectiveness.
Actually many of the ones I've know have more steel, audacity and gall in them than I ever will.
Because it was wanted of me I evolved into a gay 'top.' My inclinations are much more versatile as the personal ads put it. But sometimes the only thing to do is what your partner or playmate wants you to do.
Long ago I role-played, opening a shirt button or two to make my chest hair visible, dropping my voice a little lower. Sex makes us do silly things, doesn't it?
As much as I like them I'm wondering if I shouldn't try spending time with somebody more masculine just to see if that works out better.
You can see what I think of straightacting.com on my Being Gay page.
(In April I made another attempt: Nelly gay guys (and the history of my love for them)