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Unhealthy Indifference

Amotivational disorder.

December 22, 2007

Inertia

On not modifying, changing habits and mode of life.

December 13, 2007

On Being Alone

On living by myself without a friend or lover as roommate or lifemate.

December 1, 2007

Suicidal?

Americans should have the right to remove themselves from among the living decently and with dignity. But Christian prejudice denies us that civil right.

Bravery

Am I timid, am I brave: while I don't want to be tested it leaves me feeling confused as to what I'm capable of.

November 18, 2007

Passive / Agressive

Comparative dominance, pushiness, control and direction in my loving relationships with other people.

October 27, 2007

Rogue Spasms of Empathy

Hidden signs of emotional distress, heartache after the end of a romantic relationship.

October 15, 2007

Looking Back on My Life

Looking at my personal history with a mix of regret and pleasure. A life imperfectly lived but with self-acceptance.

September 15, 2007

Ah, Heterosexuality

Whether I'm pansexual or queer often I find myself culturally estranged by the majority population of straight men and women.

June 24, 2007

Pansexual Sodomite : The Interview

Candid conversation with a queerly pansexual man from Durham, North Carolina.

January 30, 2007

Radiantly Malignant

A possible perception of my archetypal sense of my father whose evil temper so strongly shaped my life.

July 10, 2006

Of Birthdays - Mine Anyway

Depression, poverty: can even the love of a good transsexual woman keep me going or should I just die?

June 8, 2006

Renascence

Depression fades, joy returns: I'm reborn as the happy man I normally see myself being.

February 21, 2006

Talking 'til 2:00 a.m.

The joy of making a new friend, conversation, empathy and insight.

Now I Lay Me Down to Sleep

Tears on my pillow, hating life, unhappy to be alive.

January 31, 2006

18 Months ...

My lover became a drug addict, neglected reading my blog and I left him for someone else.

November 29, 2005

Despair

Intuition and intelligence at war with depression and hopelessness.

November 7, 2005

Ask the Pansexual Sodomite

Need advice? What can I tell you about pansexuality, being gay, loving transgendered and femme gay guys. This is your chance to gain an insight into my mind.

September 25, 2005

Vacuum

Lover out of the country, ex-lover recently dead. I have to learn to live in my house by myself all over again.

September 3, 2005

On Being Without Your Lover

The dismal, depressing feeling of being alone and lonely even if it is only for a few months.

September 1, 2005

Putting a dog down

Durham, NC: Animal control will come and get my ex-lover's dog.

August 1, 2005

Charm and vulnerability

On the dangers of being charming and the power of seeming vulnerable.

July 26, 2005

Thanks

Thanking people for letting me know how much they care about my ex-lover's death.

On loving a drama queen

My ex-lover overdramatized his life, unable to see the comedy and it killed him.

July 25, 2005

Death of an ex-lover

My former boyfriend Charles Alan Cagle died in my house of a drug overdose.

July 22, 2005

On internet friendship

Making and maintaining friendships made on the web.

July 6, 2005

Pristine Ann Gee

Man of two worlds, transvestite freedom fighter comes for a visit.

June 26, 2005

Evil yesterday

Watching my ex-lover scrap crack and cocain from my bathroom floor.

June 16, 2005

Geodon and Lexapro

Psychiatric medications that have given my bipolar, drug addicted ex-lover a better life.

May 29, 2005

Don't weep for me ...

Love is dead, time to just move on and enjoy life.

November 28, 2004

Charles & Remeron

Remeron - mirtazapine - seems to be helping my ex-lover cope with his depression and emotional pain.

November 22, 2004

Fat! Fat! Like a water rat!

When love gone bad leaves you fat and unlovable, unsexy.

November 20, 2004

Fall of the House of Richard

Durham, NC: porch swing collapsed, some of my house's wiring is shorted out.

On recovering

Love has died: my home, my health and my sexuality are all in need of rehabilitation.

November 17, 2004

One of the saddest nights of my life

My lover is addicted to crack and I had to leave the home that I own to get away from him.

November 4, 2004

I sent my lover to the loony bin!

My boyfriend winds up as a psychiatric inpatient for suicide prevention when I tell him we can't live together any longer.

October 26, 2004

Queer sexuality: finding out, coming out

For National Coming Out Day I write of my own discovery that I'm gay and coming out to loved ones.

October 10, 2004

Lovers who won't read your words (a followup)

I hoped my weblog would help keep me from leaving my lover but he wouldn't read the words I'd written.

October 5, 2004

What is your lover doesn't read your weblog?

If someone writes about themselves in public on the web and their boyfriend or girlfriend doesn't bother to read their blog does that mean they don't really care?

September 29, 2004

Crack addiction: relapse

Duke psychiatrist prescribes Neurontin which causes my crack addicted boyfriend to start smoking crack again.

September 20, 2004

Pansexual confusion

Love dies and the pansexual sodomite feels confused by his various desires.

September 15, 2004

Crack addict boyfriend update

The horror of living with someone addicted to crack, heroin and other drugs.

September 14, 2004

On talking to a virtual friend for the first time

Knew him on the web for years, finally I called him on the telephone and we chatted and had a good time.

August 28, 2004

Living with a crack addict: waiting for the conclusion

Time for my crack-addicted boyfriend to get his addiction under control or for me to move on with my own life even if I must leave him behind.

August 27, 2004

Brunswick Stew & corndodgers

Bought a new vegetable steamer. Wish I knew how to recreate the Georgia cooking my momma used to cook for me.

August 25, 2004

Crack, recovery, reconcilliation?

My boyfriend became a crack addict. I'm hoping he can learn clarity and we can live together and love one another again.

August 24, 2004

Black Beauty

I tried many drugs but nothing as as pleasurable as Black Beauty a form of speed popular long ago.

August 22, 2004

Molly and me and the crack makes three

I fear that mostly I just want to disentangle myself from the life of my crack addicted lover.

August 21, 2004

Fictitious friend

When my lover became a crack addict he invented a friend who does not exist to explain where he was and what he was doing.

August 20, 2004

Discovering he is a crack addict

How I learned that my love is addicted to crack cocaine.

August 19, 2004

I live with a crack addict

One discovering that my lover is addicted to crack cocaine.

August 18, 2004

Being aggressive

On coming to appreciate the value of seeming to be agressive. Agressive gay men get more guys. And it keeps pests and beggars at bay, makes store clerks attend to you.

August 17, 2004

Barking at trucks

Jailed for drugs in Statesboro, GA I came out of the closet to my daddy.

August 16, 2004

Days of psychedelics and roses

When I was young I was enjoyed my LSD. Never as equally excited by marijuana. And I'll never forget jimson weed.

August 15, 2004

The sodomite blahs

Down in the doldrums I'm reading Liebling and watching Jeeves and Wooster on DVD.

August 10, 2004

Laziness

My lover's laziness may end my relationship and a few words about the Friends TV show: fear of male touching, intimacy.

July 29, 2004

Persecuting by personal ad

On running a personal ad to get even with a bad man who has abused you.

July 22, 2004

I just bought a taxi

I buy a used cab from a taxi driver who works for Associated Taxi here in Durham, NC.

July 6, 2004

My lover can't shut his mouth

My boyfriend hurt his jaw in a bike accident but wouldn't go to the hospital until I made him.

July 2, 2004

Charles fell off the bike today

Wondering if I should leave my lover. He fell from a bike and hurt his head today. Hard to think of going when he is in pain.

June 30, 2004

Ask Dr. Magic Eightball

Nasty surprise: discover that your lover is stealing your money.

June 24, 2004

Sodomitical quietude

Quotidian note on one man's daily life, it isn't a gripping read. Love is a pain, work a chore. So it often is for many of us merely human beings.

June 22, 2004

Love is not loving

Gay man recounts the impending end of a romantic relationship.

June 14, 2004

Passion or the lack of it

Are romantic relationships worth having if there's no passion, no romance?

June 12, 2004

One gay man's romantic failures

Mistakes in love, errors in romance, loving wrongly, silly passion, bad lovers: even gay men can do all the wrong things when they are too romantic for their own good.

June 4, 2004

Unrealized sexuality: pansexuality

Being a pansexual man every kind of person, every type of body, every fluke of biology is worthy of love and lust.

June 3, 2004

The crack addict

Durham, NC: my lover brings a crack addict home and lets him stay in our house.

June 2, 2004

All the lonely people ...

Pharmacological psychiatry doesn't cure lonliness, gay men who want to be virgings are foolish and probably need sex more than psychiatry

May 28, 2004

Gay man: straight friends

I'm a gueer guy and most of my friends are heterosexual men - how about you?

May 27, 2004

Retrosexual homosexual

I'm a very sloppily dressed gay man who refutes the stereotype of queer eye for the straight guy.

May 25, 2004

Pansexual autobiography

Autobiographical writings of Richard Evans Lee who calls himself the pansexual sodomite.

May 20, 2004