Fag hags (Do you have one?)
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have we ever discussed fag hags? it always struck me that they gravitated only towards the flamers: the non-threatening mama's boys. i know i have absolutely no draw with fag hags at all. they seem incredible disappointed that i am so feather boa-lessly staid.
So what is a fag hag? Firstly, it is important to note that there are many different definitions. The term fag-hag stretches from women who simply enjoy the company of gay men, to those who fall in love with gay men, and even those who try to “Convert” gay men into straight men. There are even situations in which Straight Women and Gay Men marry and live happy lives together.
I used to think I was biologically destined to relate better with gay men than straight men.
None of the guys I knew who had a fag hag trailing after him could've been called butch. (Though while I knew lots of femme guys who called women 'fish' I'd swear it was the, ahem, very manly guys that seemed the most misogynistic.) Some years after I last saw him I learned that the woman I thought his hag was a post-op transsexual: don't know if she really fit the stereotype or not.
Hadn't thought about fag hags for a long time until a couple of years ago. One of the half-dozen most lovely boys ever seen in my shop - pale, waifishly thin, brightly blonde - walked in with one trailing in her wake. Unsurprisingly she was looking for David Bowie stuff. She followed him around the store while he acted as if she weren't there. Bet he'd have broken down in tears if she told him to go to Hell.
Not sure what the motivation is. A few probably just share my own taste in guys. I'm sure you are right; some just want someone inoffensive, safe. And who'll infuse their own dull lives with a little color, cheap glamour.
Some probably are looking for an adult boy to mother. Charles brings that out in women. So much so it is like a superpower. Though there are those straight women who try to bond in icky way. Charles has a small bag he carries his many medications in and I remember how disgusted he was with one woman who insisted on call the bag his 'purse.'
I've had few women friends much less a fag hag.